For years, I wore a suit of armor. Not the kind you see in movies or museums, but an invisible one – a protective layer I built around myself. It shielded me from vulnerability and the fear that I wasn’t enough. 

This armor made me fiercely independent, always in control, striving for perfection at every turn. But beneath that armor, I was hiding something deeper – my own self-worth issues.

I convinced myself that being independent and perfect was the way to prove my value. Especially because I was a woman in a male-dominated work environment, and I thought I had to be “tough”. 

I had a hard time asking for help, thinking it would make me seem weak. I controlled every detail, believing it was the only way to succeed. And I pushed myself relentlessly, always aiming for an impossible standard. But the truth was, my armor wasn’t protecting me – it was suffocating me.

1. Hiding Behind Control

Control became my way of feeling safe. If I could control everything around me, I thought I could protect myself from failure, judgment, or rejection. But in reality, the more I controlled, the more isolated I became. 

2. Perfectionism as a Mask

Perfectionism was my mask, the shield I used to hide my insecurities. I believed that if I was perfect, I would be worthy of love and success. Yet, no matter how hard I tried, I never felt enough. No wonder I’ve had a divorce, an annulment, and now I’m on my third marriage.  

3. Releasing the Armor

Letting go of that safe, dark, cold, hard armor was the hardest, yet most liberating thing I’ve ever done. I learned that my worth isn’t tied to perfection or control. It’s intrinsic. By embracing my imperfections and allowing myself to be vulnerable, I discovered a deeper, more authentic strength.

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Are you ready to take off your armor and embrace your true worth? Let’s explore how you can free yourself from the weight of perfectionism and control.

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With Love & Empowerment,
Susan Elizabeth

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